Tech Pet Peeve: Random Facebook Friending (AKA Power Friending)
I know I’m not alone here — we’ve all had those friend requests from people we don’t know — some who have a few friends in common, and others who are completely random. And although I feel this happens more to girls than guys (because of all the creepers out there), I’ve had my fair share as well. I noticed a particular increase when I started writing for MakeUseOf. So I changed my settings so that only friends of friends could add me, and only the rest could follow.
Here’s the pet peeve of mine though: When I get random invites from people who I have one, maaayyybe two friends in common with, and they send to message prior as to why they’re adding me. If it’s just random people doing this, I would just classify it as random friending, but whenever it’s on a more professional level and they have thousands of “friends”, I call it power friending.
Facebook is actually an awesome network — I really like it. But I wish they would do a few things help connections be more personal.
Now I’ll admit — there was a time when I did this, but it was on accident.Upon looking at someone’s profile (not sure why I was looking at her’s again), I somehow added her and didn’t realize it. Don’t know how. It just happened. So whenever she confirmed the request, I got a notification and was quite surprised at what had happened and how it had happened. So I sent her a message…
So. From now on, if there is someone you’d like to add… first look to see if they have the follow button. This allows you to see only what they make public, which depending on what their profile looks like, might be a lot.
There are several people whom I follow that I know decently — meeting through Twitter or blogs, etc. and even Skyping with, but don’t know them well enough to want to be their friend.
Secondly, send a stinking message! It takes two seconds and is a great way to start the conversation with them instead of being a weird creeper person who just adds people and then never says “Hi! This is why I added you”. Honestly, if you don’t feel there’s a need to message someone and you don’t know them, don’t bother adding them either. Now, if you know someone fairly well, you don’t need to send a message, however if it’s been a while since you talked… why not send one?
In addition to all of this, this is even more important on a professional level. If you’re representing your business, brand or even just yourself, don’t do this. In fact, don’t do a lot of things, but this is certainly one of the big ones.