Why do you try to act as if you care?
I receive a text “How are you?”
Wow. Great conversation.
I wish it was as easy for me to not try to care as it is for you.
"Man should not be judged by the color of his skin, but by the content of his character." And Obama has got some bad characteristics. Some bad tendencies. And we need to focus on that as the reason that people don’t like him. Stop trying to use your influence in a negative way.
Well said, sir. Well said.
Sometimes I feel the hardest choices aren’t the ones that everyone notices, but rather the ones that only a few might, or even no one.
And sometimes I feel the hardest choices aren’t the ones that point in a definite direction or have a definite result and outcome.
…Sometimes, I even feel the hardest choices seem petty to others if I were to tell someone, so I don’t and just hope I made the right one.
This is always something I’ve taken seriously and appreciated when people have taken the time for me.
Personally, my time is often the best I can offer to my friends, and I always try to let them know I’m there for them. Not trying to boast, just sharing my thoughts.
However, in a way, this is a slightly selfish way of looking at it as well… I never think about my time when a friend needs something. I drop everything and I’m there for them. Nothing else matters.
— Unknown source, but so very true!
So often I feel like I don’t seem strong enough on the outside (and I’ve even had people tell me so), and it’s quotes like this that help me see that I don’t need to. I just need to overcome my secret battles. Other people’s perceptions aren’t what truly matter.
via LifeHack.org’s Facebook page
When you’ve trusted God and walked His way,
When you’ve felt His hand lead you day by day,
But your steps now take you another way… START OVER.
When you’ve made your plans and they’ve gone awry,
When you’ve tried your best and there’s no more try,
When you’ve failed yourself and you don’t know why… START OVER.
When you’ve told your friends what you plan to do,
When you’ve trusted them and they didn’t come through,
And you’re all alone and it’s up to you…START OVER.
When you’ve failed your kids and they’re grown and gone,
When you’ve done your best but it’s turned out wrong,
And now your grandchildren come along…START OVER.
When you’ve prayed to God so you’ll know His will,
When you’ve prayed and prayed and you don’t know still,
When you want to stop ‘cause you’ve had your fill…START OVER.
When you think you’re finished and want to quit,
When you’ve bottomed out in life’s deepest pit,
When you’ve tried and tried to get out of it…START OVER.
When the year has been long and successes few,
When December comes and you’re feeling blue,
God gives a January just for you…START OVER.
Starting over means “Victories Won”.
Starting over means “A Race Well Run”.
Starting over means “God’s Will Done”.
Don’t just sit there…START OVER.
A poem shared with me. Each of these lines have a significant meaning to me. And honestly, I can’t say more, so I’m going to leave it at what the poem says. Now I will start over.
The Devil creates thoughts that start in the mind and affect the heart. God begins with the heart, that then affects the mind.
So many songs make me think of you.
Some, I long you would sing to me.
Others, I wish I could sing to you.
But you’re gone…
And I need to move on.
And there are songs about that too…
Never underestimate others’ past relationship experiences — The ones who you didn’t think would leave you, will. And the ones you did think would leave you… will.
It’s interesting how some days go awesome, and other days you wake up and immediately feel defeated. I’m not talking about physical things that cause this (although they can play a role), I’m primarily referring to the mind.
This morning I woke up and already felt defeated. The thoughts that I struggle so hard to fight and keep from rising up, did just that. The thoughts don’t matter — those are personal to me and those involved in them. What matters is I then realized that I have fallen extremely short in sincere prayer again this week. Yet another week that I haven’t been faithful enough in praying and relying on God to help me through my struggles… and to help others through theirs. I feel very guilty for that. And upon realizing that, the thought came to me:
The Devil never rests, so neither should my prayer.
I’ve felt this for a long time.
Guys are not allowed to be emotional. And if they are allowed to be, they are required to keep it to themselves. It’s a dated ideology that all because I’m crying over a human being of the opposite sex I’m less of a man…
This weekend I visited Seattle, WA for the primary purpose of a reptile expo, which was cool, but I had a lot of other neat experiences along the way.
First, the people I stayed with were very hospitable — I didn’t know them at all, but someone I know through my church hooked me up with a place to stay, which was just awesome! I love the people in my fellowship.
Saturday morning I went on a little bike ride through Clark’s Creek Park in Puyallup, WA (which actually was only a few blocks from the fairgrounds where the expo as at). However, the trails were a muddy mess resulting in me becoming a muddy mess. I don’t even mind getting muddy, but it was the wet roots, logs and rocks that made it difficult to get any traction, even with my aggressive tread. Also, that was the only opportunity I got to go riding, so I will definitely be visiting western Washington more to explore the many trails in the area.
After riding I hung out with a couple friends, who I actually barely knew, at the expo. This was actually one of the primary reasons of going to the expo. If they hadn’t gone, I wouldn’t have had too much reason to go by myself — I just don’t think I would have enjoyed it the same. They were boyfriend and girlfriend — the girl I worked with for a short time at the Omaha Zoo until she moved out to western Washington. I moved out to Idaho shortly after and it was at that time that we began planning the idea of going to an expo together. She was really only one of the two interns at the Omaha Zoo that I “clicked” with — everyone else was lame (e.g. not funny, didn’t get sarcasm, didn’t have much creativity or vision). Of course, I hadn’t met her boyfriend yet, and he sounded awesome, so I was looking forward to that.
At the expo we saw some truly awesome stuff. Note that this was my very first expo. Why I have never gone before? I have no idea. I guess I just never knew about them, nor pursued the idea of how to find one. There were hundreds of booths with breeders from near-beginning to quite experienced. Of course, I have my eye on two kinds of snakes: the Kenyan Sand Boa and Western Hognose. It was so tempting to get a sand boa — they were only $25, but so many of the guys that I live with hate snakes (stupid), so I decided to honor their request reluctantly.
Side note: to anyone who “hates snakes” hold a corn snake, just a little corn snake — you’ll fall in love.
Hopefully, I will have some pictures to post soon! I relied on someone else to take photos and will be getting them soon.
After the expo we went out and got some Chinese food and talked for hours — probably one of the best conversations I’ve had with people all year. We talked about everything from career goals to passions and interests to spirituality to well, just about everything… even some potentially touchy subjects. But that just goes to show that even if you don’t completely see eye to eye with people if you seek to truly understand their viewpoints and why they believe and feel the way they do, you gain an appreciation, thus improving the quality of both the relationship and the immediate conversation.
The trip there and back was actually pretty great too. I connected with a couple people through a rideshare group on Facebook and they helped out with gas. Before I left Sunday afternoon, I ventured up to downtown Seattle to pick up one of the passengers wanting to head back east. This was my first time driving through Seattle, and it was actually really awesome! I definitely want to spend more time there. There really wasn’t a dull moment for the whole trip, so that made it even better!
Overall, it was a great decision to spend this past weekend in a new place. I am looking forward to doing a lot more traveling in the near future.
I’m not libertarian — I would consider myself more conservative — but I do feel “we” see eye to eye on many of the same things.
But that’s not my point in reblogging this. I just thought I’d share how ironic it really is that socialists stole the word “liberal”, as liberal, in fact, means something entirely different:
However, due to it being used improperly, it’s definition has changed over time:
The irony here is that where liberals claim to be for freedom, they actually are more restrictive. But then they pin conservatives or libertarians as the bad guys on different “freedoms” that they’re for.
"Progressive" is a similar term that they’ve also stolen. Progressive is derived from "progress", meaning "moving forward" and by them using that, they imply that conservatives and libertarians "move backwards" or "stand still". And in some instances, perhaps we should move back from where we’ve gone as a country — progressing forward in the wrong direction doesn’t help anyone.
I could go on, but I think I’ll stop there.
John Phillips is a political science professor at Austin Peay State University.
What do you do? Are you in school or working? If you’re in school, what do you hope to do with that education? Are you doing any career-related activities? And if you’re working, what do you for a career? Are you where you want to be? If not, where do you hope to go?
These are all questions you should know the answers to. Why? So you can have a plan? Not really — although, that should be the obvious. The real reason is so that when given an opportunity, you can quickly share who you are and what you’re about. Why is this important, you might ask? Well, we always hear “it’s not what you know, it’s who you know.” Sounds nice, but how do you get to the point of meeting and getting to know people? Remember those questions? That’s how.
Whether you’re out in public, or on the Internet, there are opportunities to meet people. Personally, I always appreciate in-person conversations the most. Next, you need to take advantage of these opportunities. Now this depends on your personality — some find it easier than others to engage in conversations with strangers, but just try. I think you’ll be surprised — it might feel weird at first, or you might not get the results you want, but it will pay off.
It’s not just about talking about yourself — ask questions… and lots of them. The more you genuinely care about others, the more you’ll appeal to and intrigue them. Emphasis on “genuinely” — don’t be fake about this. If you struggle with genuinely caring about others, well… that’s a whole different post.
Today I visited a coffee shop that I hadn’t been in before — I love checking out new places, and since it was just across the street from the bike shop I was picking up my bike from being repaired at, I decided to hang out there for a bit.
The owner was super friendly and asked me if I was going to school — I get this question nearly every time I meet someone new… and it’s not surprising given that there are two major universities in the area I live. I explain that I’m actually working as a freelance writer and do some computer repair and web design on the side. A guy behind me perked up and asked “Do you have a card?” Not hearing him (TIP: always be alert), I walked over to a table and set my stuff down. Thankfully, he was persistent and came over and asked me again. For sake of his privacy, we’ll name him “Craig”. I promptly gave him my card, which I highly recommend everyone having… yes, everyone. Need reasons? Read point number three of this article on College Info Geek. We talked for a bit — I mainly listened to what he does, and he said he’d email me later. Now, will he? I don’t know. “Craig” actually talked to another web designer at this same coffee shop, so he’s certainly keeping his options open.
That leads me to what happened next, I overheard a little bit of the conversation between “Craig” and another guy, who was also a web designer and writer. So after they parted ways, I introduced myself to this other guy, who I’ll name “Trevor” for his privacy (which was also what I actually thought he introduced himself as at first), and we struck up a great conversation. Turns out “Trevor” is around my age and is also an entrepreneur. Now, I could see him as competition — he talked to a potential client, and far longer than I had — but I don’t. In fact, it doesn’t really matter to me who “Craig” would go with, him, me, or someone else. What I do care about is that “Craig” works with who he jives with the best. So instead of being “competitive”, I’d rather build connections — that approach has proven much more useful for me time and time again.
Be patient. Be consistent. And be focused. Keep your professional goals in mind. This applies to you whether you’re a student or if you just graduated and are trying to build your career, or potentially if you have even been in a specific line of work for a while — fresh connections are always beneficial.
I firmly believe that students especially should be actively connecting with people in their field of interest. Twitter is an awesome place for this, but so is meeting random people — you never know who they will know (which is what LinkedIn is built around, if you were wondering what the point of it is). Examples of this would be to find businesses or organizations to work at or even volunteer at while in school — don’t wait for graduation or your internship to come to start looking for opportunities — build them now. Even if you make less than you would working at that coffee shop down the street, it’s about experience right? And with that another thought on “experience” just came to me, but I’ll save that for another article to keep this one on topic.
So now the ball is in your hands — and I’d love to hear back from you on this! What are you doing now to kickstart your professional goals? If you’re not doing anything now, what do you plan to do?
I graduated as a Vet Assistant and am currently writing for MakeUseOf, while looking for opportunities in the exotic animal husbandry, rescue and rehabilitation, and research fields of work. Previously, I interned at the Henry Doorly Zoo in Omaha from June 2012 up to May 2013, when I left for Idaho.